Men decided Women could have it all, and it's Killing us.

The feminist movement was orchestrated by men, to drive women out of their homes and into the workplace. Women were manipulated into thinking that they were making a difference, enacting change in the world, and it was all built on a lie.

Our communities and had already begun to be eroded, so with women in the workforce, children were raised by other people, those who weren't fortunate enough to have family support had to rely on childcare services; so began the indoctrination and institutionalization of children from a young age.

We were sold the lie that we could have it all, do it all. Housekeep, raise babies, work full time, have career ambitions and beat men at their own game; breadwinning... but men didn't have to do anything when they got home from work, we were fooled into taking on the role of two people.

Home cooked meals were replaced by 'fast food' and a rise in chronic illnesses, behavioural issues and obesity.

Home made clothing made with natural fibres was replaced by 'fast fashion' full of endocrine disruptors.

Chemical free, home grown veggies and home killed livestock have been replaced by chemical laden, mass produced produce that's devoid of nutritional value because the soil is stripped bare, and autism is on the rise.

Let's look at some of the lies we've been sold over the years....

First there was the diet companies selling us 'fat is the devil' so it was skinny or low fat everything for years, the models all parading around as size 6 coat hangers that we were comparing ourselves against and always falling short.

Then we moved to the toxic body positivity era; where we were told 'big is beautiful' and to embrace our body shape. Don't get me wrong, BIG IS BEAUTIFUL (if you're healthy), unless it becomes a risk to your health and wellbeing and then one of the only solutions you're offered is a weight loss drug that kills people.

Followed by the fake femme era, which is still somewhat prevalent; that we need fake tan, fake nails, fake boobs, fake lips, fake lashes, fake hair in order to be beautiful. That there is always something we need to improve or change in order to feel more beautiful or feminine; which is a very fake, very toxic, very disconnected form of femininity that we are being SOLD, not embodying.

And now we are also in the 'preserve your youth and never show signs of aging' era. That wrinkles and fine lines are not the sign of a life where you've lived, laughed and loved, but something we need to eradicate.

Is it any wonder that women get to their late 30s/early 40's, and if they haven't already been diagosed with an autoimmune disorder, they either hit perimenopause with a vengeance, or they have a /mid life crisis (or both)??

Is it a mid life crisis/perimenopause, or is it your body screaming on every level to STOP!!! ENOUGH OF THIS BULLSHIT!!! When you've tried for over 30 years to keep up, do all the things, juggle all the balls, be instagram perfect in every area of your life, and continually felt like you're failing/not enough, that we get to a point in our lives and realise that this just isn't it??

Is it an awakening? A desire for something more fulfilling? Something that lights us up instead of extinguishing our light? An inner knowing that there is something missing, that what we are doing is unsustainable and killing us?? A lot of us go searching for 'it' externally, and there can be a lot of trial and error, a lot of outrageous choices and changes (hence why we get labelled as crazy), because we have forgotten what 'it' is.

'IT' is a returning... A returning to our innate feminine role that stems right back to our tribal roots. A returning to slow, nourishing, nurturing, connected ways of being, doing and living.

A returning to what makes our soul feel alive, and connected. A returning to connection; with each other, ourselves, our intuition, the universe, and spirit.

I was reflecting on what makes me feel most connected. Aside from grounding, meditating and those 'common' nervous system rituals I practise, I feel most connected after an afternoon of cooking. An afternoon singing around the kitchen, gently simmering the chicken to make the perfect meat stock for soups, prepping nutritious dinners for the week ahead, baking cakes and cookies for the kids lunchboxes, so that one day they'll appreciate how much heart I put into their food (even if the kids at school judge them because their mums cakes aren't loaded with sugar and 'don't taste right'), preparing breakfast and lunch food so I'm fuelling my body correctly and not running on fumes or 'the leftovers I scraped off the kids plates after they've eaten' as I hear so many mums say.

I feel connected when I wander out to the veggie garden for some herbs, or for whatever seasonal produce my husband has lovingly tended to for our family. I feel connected whenever I'm in nature, disconnected and taking it all in around me. I feel connected when I honour my bodies needs; for movement, rest, extra sleep; which has all come about from a renewed willingness to listen, to drop in and block out all the outside noise of what I 'should' be doing, or from trying to push through and punishing my body because it isn't conforming to what society is telling me it should be. I feel connected when I roll over and there's a little person snuggled into me in bed, or having quiet chats in the morning before rolling out of bed.

I invite you to become curious about what it is your body is screaming for... what feels connected and what feels like a bed of nails to your nervous system. What does 'IT' look like for you??